AdultFriendFinder Review — Is AFF Legit or a Waste of Time?

If you’re looking to have as much casual sex as possible, then you may have already heard of a hookup site called Adult Friend Finder. It promises to match you with hot people in your area so that you can have wild, kinky sex in as little time as possible.

Maybe as soon as tonight, in fact.

It sounds great — but it also sounds a little too good to be true. Does AdultFriendFinder really work? Or are all the “hot women” just fake profiles?

As it turns out, I’ve spent several months as a paying member of Adult Friend Finder, so I can answer these questions. I’ll let you know what I experienced on the site — and teach you the best way to use it if you want to hook up with someone as soon as you can.

On with the Adult Friend Finder review!

First Things First - Did I Get Laid?

I feel like this is the question everyone wants to ask about Adult Friend Finder, so I’ll address it up-front. Yes, I did get laid — I got laid like crazy, in fact.

However, it took me some time to figure out how to use the site to get some action, and it certainly wasn’t as easy as their ads suggested. Once you “crack the code,” though, you’ll find that getting women to agree to meet you for sex is much easier than approaching them at a bar or nightclub.

I’ll go into more detail on my strategy a little bit later, but for now let me just say that you’re going to need a gold membership and some creative wordplay.

You’ll also want to keep in mind AFF is best for kinky people and swingers. While it works great for casual sex, there’s some other sites I reviewed that make getting laid even easier in certain situations:

• SeekingArrangement is best for meeting hot college age girls. Has more women than any site (there’s 4 women for every 1 guy) but the catch is many of the women are gold diggers.
• AshleyMadison is easier to get laid since the women there are more desperate, but depending on your ethics may not be a good fit for you (it’s a site women use to find affair partners).
• AdultFriendFinder - best for swingers and hookups, with less strings attached than the sites listed above, but still good if you use my tips below.

What is AdultFriendFinder? Who Uses It?

AdultFriendFinder is a site that’s designed to make it easy for users to find like-minded individuals for casual sex. It’s like a traditional online dating site, except it does away with the pretense that people are using it for anything other than NSA sex.

The site accommodates just about any kink or fetish.

Many people use it for that very reason, as it’s easier to find someone online who’s into your particular kink than it is to hope to get lucky on Tinder.

The audience for AdultFriendFinder is made up of people looking to get laid as quickly and easily as possible, kinksters looking for fellow kinksters, and couples hoping to find unicorns.

Of course, you’ll also find cam girls, bots, and scammers, so you’ll need to be careful who you chat with.

My Experience with Adult Friend Finder

I found out about Adult Friend Finder the way most of you probably did: through an ad on a porn site (they advertise aggressively on some of the top cam sites online).

What can I say? I was curious. And between you and me, I wasn’t doing too well on other online dating sites.

I’m not a complete failure with women, but I’m no Ryan Gosling, either.

So if AdultFriendFinder was promising me that not only did these women exist, but that it would hook me up with them? You better believe I’ll give that a shot.

What I found didn’t exactly live up to my wildest fantasies — but it didn’t leave me totally disappointed, either.

Signing Up

The process for signing up is pretty standard: fill out basic information, pick a username, and fill out a brief profile.

As soon as you confirm your email address, you’ll immediately be taken to a page that asks you to whip out your credit card and sign up for a gold membership.

The Gold Membership

This is one of the biggest questions many people have about AdultFriendFinder; namely, is paying for the gold membership worth it?

My answer: only if you want to get laid. In fact, the site is practically worthless without one.

How to Meet People on AFF

I’m going to assume that you’ve signed up for the gold paid membership for the rest of this review, because again, there’s no real point to the site without it.

Once you give them your payment, you’ll notice that the entire site opens up to you — and it becomes much easier to meet people.

You can’t just sit back and wait for them to come to you, though. You’ll have to put yourself out there sooner or later, and that means reaching out to women to gauge their interest.

It’s a little intimidating at first, which is why it took me so long to try it. But I’ll tell you this — the amount of sex I had skyrocketed once I started making the first move.

Of course, there’s more to it than just being proactive; after all, most female members on the site are bombarded with messages (and dick pics) from dudes every single day.

That’s the part that I figured out that I think most people miss — and while my method probably isn’t perfect, I’ll tell you what I did to get laid consistently on Adult Friend Finder.

How to Get Laid on Adult Friend Finder

Once you get the hang of it, having sex with someone you meet on Adult Friend Finder is relatively easy. I say “relatively” because it’s definitely not as easy as their ads make it seem; you do need some game, and women won’t rush over to have sex with you within 10 minutes of messaging them.

Now, there are a few things you should know about getting laid on AdultFriendFinder before we begin.

You need to understand:

Forget about the “10s”

If you see women on Adult Friend Finder who look like they're unbelievably beautiful, she’s probably a pro or a catfish.

You will not be having sex with supermodels.

However, if you’re happy banging average women — maybe they’re a little overweight, maybe they’re a little older than you’d normally go for — you can absolutely clean up here.

Some of these women are married.

And their husbands are totally fine with them having sex with you. In fact, they may want to be in the room when it happens.

If you’re cool with hot wives and swingers (and not everyone is), there’s plenty of opportunities here.

You’re going to get dick pics, too.

Both men and women use this online dating site, so there are a lot of guys on here looking for other guys.

They may message you — and they may message you aggressively. Just ignore them (unless you’re into it, of course), and chalk it up to the cost of getting laid.

You'll discover all kinds of sexual orientation on AFF.

Starting Off with AFF — All the Mistakes I Made

The biggest mistake I made was not buying the gold membership for the first three weeks. You can’t do anything worth doing without it — you can’t even view most member’s profiles.

Maybe if you look and act like James Bond you can get laid for free, but if that were the case, you probably wouldn’t need Adult Friend Finder at all.

I eventually realized my mistake and put my credit card down, but even then I didn’t have much luck. If I hadn’t prepaid for 3 months in advance, I would have given up.

But since I was financially committed (and unbelievably horny), I decided to keep trying. Looking back now, I can say these are the biggest mistakes I made starting out:

Leaving my profile blank

I figured no one reads those things, but I was only half right — men don’t read them.

Women go crazy for descriptive bios (think romance novel stuff), so make sure to tell them exactly what they can expect from a night with you. You’ll also need to use this skill when chatting with them, so the more practice you get, the better.

Being a prude

Think about why most women are on here. It’s not just to get laid — they can get laid at any bar in the world. Women are there to fulfill specific fantasies, ones that they may be embarrassed to talk about in real life.

If you’re willing to help them achieve these fantasies (even if it’s not something you’re into), they’ll blow your mind in return.

Not having a photo

If you don’t put up a photo, no woman will talk to you.

Don’t put up pictures of your junk, either; you want flattering face photos, and something that gives them a rough idea of your body type.

Just being kind of boring

This is a big one, and maybe the most common mistake guys make that keeps them from getting laid.

AdultFriendFinder is built around fantasy — she can have boring conversations with guys she knows in real life. Give her something fresh and interesting, even if it’s a bit weird.

Trust me, if she’s on Adult Friend Finder, she’s already seen some weird stuff, and she hasn’t run screaming for the hills just yet.

A Brief Look at My Successful Hookups — What You Can Learn from What Worked for Me

Below, I’ll give you a quick look at some of the successful hookups I had on the site.

These will give you an idea of what to expect from getting laid on Adult Friend Finder, as well as showing you how to get to the point of getting laid in the first place.

Jennifer — Mid-40s

Jennifer was the first woman I slept with on Adult Friend Finder, and it happened when I was just about to give up on the whole thing.

It was easy — I messaged her with a stupid joke about a tattoo she had (which showed I paid attention to her profile and wasn’t just messaging the same thing to every woman), and she took it from there.

Sarah — Late 50s

Sarah is the oldest woman I’ve ever been with, but she was attractive enough for me. I feel like she wasn’t getting much attention due to her age. Once I gave her that attention, though, everything fell into place quickly (we met up and had sex the same day).

Brittany — Mid-20s

I’ve had sex with a little over a dozen women from Adult Friend Finder, and Brittany is both the youngest and most attractive.

She was hot — like an 8 — and never contacted me again after we had sex.

I’m including her here just to show you that young, attractive women are on there — but don’t expect to run into them very often.

Scams & Other Things to Watch Out For

Not everyone is on the up-and-up at Adult Friend Finder, of course. You’ll run into fake profiles, catfish, bots, prostitutes, and who knows what else.

If you see an AdultFriendFinder review that pretends bots and fakes aren't a problem, it's lying to you. Still, there are some things to watch out for so you don't get scammed on AFF or similar dating sites.

How to avoid getting scammed on AdultFriendFinder:

Don’t pay for anything

People will constantly hit you up with sob stories, saying they’d love to sleep with you if it weren’t for the fact that they’re short on rent/need bail money/have a sick relative/etc.

You’re not going to get laid, so don’t give them money.

Get legit pics

Do a reverse image search of their profile pics to make sure they’re not using stock images.

When it comes time to chat, ask for pictures of specific poses, like putting their hands on their head or something. Better yet, get on webcam video chat rooms for some actual live interaction.

If she's there on live video chat rooms, she's probably real.

Ask random questions

Bots are designed to anticipate common responses, so don’t be afraid to get a little random with your questions and answers.

If the other person rolls with it, they’re probably real. As an added bonus, this can make you seem interesting, which gets you one step closer to getting laid.

Check her social media

See if she's got any social media profiles she's willing to share with you.

News users on online dating apps like AFF often link to their social handles so you can check them out and see whether they're real or not.

Of course, you could fake a Twitter or Facebook profile, but if it's got lots of interactions with other users and it goes back for several years, chances are that it's genuine.

Still, paid members are often looking for anonymity on Adult Friend Finder, so they may be gun-shy about giving out personal information even though they want to plow you.

Check for verified members

Some members on AFF have their profiles verified by sending in their ID or other forms of proof to the AFF customer service team.

This is a great way to weed out the real users on the app from the fake members.

Would I Recommend Adult Friend Finder?

That all depends on what you’re looking to get out of a hookup site. If you want to get laid quickly and easily — and you’re not picky about who you sleep with — then it’s a fantastic site.

If you want to sleep with beautiful women, though, you’ll need to look elsewhere. Even in that case, though, I’d recommend keeping an Adult Friend Finder profile, because you never know when you’ll need a sure thing.

Are There Any Dating Sites Better Than Adult Friend Finder?

You can have a lot of fun on Adult Friend Finder, but that doesn’t mean that it’s the best place for a guy to get laid on the internet. There are plenty more sex dating sites out there.

My two favorite sites are below; I’ve included one that works great if you have money, and another one that’s great regardless of your financial situation.

Seeking - Best Dating Site For Sugar Daddies

Seeking is for sugar daddies looking for sugar babies. That means you’ll need money to make it work, but if you have it, you can have sex with jaw-dropping college chicks.

We’re talking model-quality women here, all of whom are more than happy to plow a guy like you. In exchange, you’ll need to provide for their financial needs.

It may seem like prostitution, but it’s possible to create intimate, long-lasting relationships on this site with women who are way out of your league.

Ashley Madison - Best For Dating Married People

This site is simple: it’s a place for married people to have affairs. As such, it’s a great way to have sex with bored housewives who just want a little excitement in their lives.

You don’t need money, and you don’t even need to be that good-looking. All you have to do is make these women feel attractive and appreciated — and in return, they’ll do everything for you that they refuse to do for their husbands.

Whatever you do, though, don’t be boring. They get enough of that at home.

Will You Find Your Next Hookup on AdultFriendFinder?

If you’re looking for NSA sex — and you’re looking for it ASAP — then AdultFriendFinder is one of the best places to find it.

There are tons of women on there who are willing to meet up and have sex on short notice, so you can have a lot of fun without having to do a lot of work.

These women aren’t going to be the hottest you’ve ever seen (you’ll have to go to Seeking or Ashley Madison for that), but if you can look past that, they can absolutely blow your mind.

Then again, you could always stay home and jerk off instead. The choice is yours.

Whatever you decide to do, we hope you enjoyed our AdultFriendFinder review!