Gay Place: TDOR
Two opps to commemorate loss in our community
ON OUR GAYDAR
GUERRILLA QUEER BAR: BABES IN TOYLAND It's the holidays: Wear flannel! Donate nonviolent new toys and/or tampons/pads/DivaCups for SafePlace. It's Where the Grrrrrrlllllzzzz and then some go. So, go! Drink. Talk. Make out (all-gender-inclusive, anti-isms/ists, pro-makeout spaces). Thu., Nov. 19, 6-9pm. The Four Horsemen, 310 E. Sixth. www.fb.com/wherethegirlsgoatx.
SAN MARCOS TRANSGENDER DAY OF REMEMBRANCE The land of the Bobcat observes TDOR, bringing together Transcend at Texas State, PFLAG San Marcos, San Marcos Unitarian Universalist, and even a visit from the mayor to issue a proclamation. Thu., Nov. 19, 7pm. San Marcos Unitarian Universalist Fellowship, 510 N. Guadalupe, San Marcos, 512/396-2986. www.fb.com/transcendtxstate.
NAKED AS A GAYBIRF BY JAY BYRD He was a good Christian boy who shared a secret with his closeted gay uncle. The naked-pated Jay Byrd brings it all to the stage for one last vulnerable weekend. Thu.-Sat., Nov. 19-21. Salvage Vanguard Theater, 2803 Manor Rd., 512/474-7886. $10, or pay what you can. www.fb.com/jamesdeanjaybyrd.
GRETCHEN PHILLIPS' MESSES Go see Jay Byrd's Naked as a Gay Bird, and while you're there, be sure to check out Gretchen's Messes, a photographic exploration of her grappling with that hoarder/neat-freak conundrum in all of us. Or as she says, "Ultimately I find it comforting to see how messy and imperfect people are. It's like, You mean it's not just me?" No, hunny, it's not just you. Thu.-Sat., Nov. 19-21. Salvage Vanguard Theater, 2803 Manor Rd. www.gretchen-phillips.com.
FIERCE FAB FRIDAYS Come on in and take a dip with Nadine Hughes and a sassy pool full of queens. Fridays, 10:30pm. Highland Lounge, 404 Colorado, 512/649-1212. Free. www.highlandlounge.com.
GULP Gear. Uniform. Leather. Pup. These geared queers will make you gulp. This month's bar social and puppy mosh invite you to don the duds of your fave Village People character. Fri., Nov. 20, 11pm. Rain on 4th, 217 W. Fourth.
DRAG AT THE DRIVE-IN: KINKY BOOTS Austin Drag Fest presents another drag hit for you to drag your kinky boots to. Fri., Nov. 20, 6:30pm. Blue Starlite Drive-In at Austin Studios, 1901 E. 51st. www.austindragfest.org.
TRANSGENDER DAY OF REMEMBRANCE Mark your calendar with a giant red heart for the love and memory of murder victims in the trans branch of our LGBT family killed due to anti-transgender hatred or prejudice. Come gather to honor and share. Sat., Nov. 21, 6:30pm. Austin City Hall Plaza, Cesar Chavez between Guadalupe & Lavaca. Free. firstname.lastname@example.org, www.transtexas.org.
EQTX FAMILY FEAST A potluck to celebrate LGBTQ family and to give back (bring extra for them to share with the kids at LifeWorks) to make sure the good folks at Equality Texas can rep us right. Sun., Nov. 22, noon. Ironwood Hall, 505 E. Seventh. $10 and two potluck items. www.equalitytexas.org.
LESBIAN WEDDING Day-drinkin' dynamos cruise to dusk with Mosaico, aka Bodega Visual of Queer Cumbia and Adzua-Gette Cole of House of Shakur. Sun., Nov. 22, 3-9pm. The Sahara Lounge, 1413 Webberville.
LATIN NIGHT DJ Soto spins all the hits. Sundays, 9pm. Bout Time II, 6607 N. I-35. www.bouttime2.com.
PLANET FABULOUS Karaoke's grande dame is back and humpin' for Hump Days and Sundays at the 'Bear. Wednesdays, 9:30pm. The Iron Bear, 121 W. Eighth, 512/482-8993. Free. www.theironbear.com.
STORIES FROM THE POLYCULE aka "Real Life in Polyamorous Families," a reading of and discussion with author/expert Dr. Elisabeth "Eli" Sheff. Mon., Nov. 23, 7pm. BookWoman, 5501 N. Lamar Ste. 105-A. www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door.
TUEZGAYZ Dependably fruitastic: Austin's legendary weekly weekday gay night on Red River. Tuesdays, 9pm. Barbarella, 615 Red River. www.fb.com/barbarella.austin.9.
BOOKWOMAN BOOK GROUP Book 'em, wo-mano. Different title each month. Fourth Thursdays, 7pm (this month's meeting is on Dec. 3). BookWoman, 5501 N. Lamar Ste. 105-A. Free. www.ebookwoman.com.
SMASHED AT STONEWALL Weekly Smash Bros. tourney. Bring your own controller (and they don't mean your bossy ex). Wednesdays, 6pm sign-up, 7pm brackets. Stonewall Warehouse, 141 E. Hopkins, San Marcos, 866/620-6667. $5.
QUEER MOVES Judgment-free, booze-free, smoke-free movement night for queer and trans folk to shake it all out. Wednesdays. First Street Studio, 2410 E. Cesar Chavez #202. $3-7 sliding scale. email@example.com.
QUEER RIDE Check the QR Facebook group for up-to-date details on meeting spots and stops of this weekly ride. Wednesdays, 7pm; wheels, 7:30pm. Texas State Capitol, 1100 Congress. Free.
SHITTY KITTY BIG BALL BINGO Ms. Rebecca Havemeyer will have you scrambling for letters, numbers, and ya diaper. Drink cheap, win big. Last Wednesdays of the month, 9:30pm. Rain on 4th, 217 W. Fourth.
ACC QUEER WRITINGS Honors English 1302, Rio Grande campus, M-W, 1:30-2:50pm. Dig deep into your heritage, or learn about a culture kept down for too long, with so much love and art and brilliance to spare ... and share. Prof. Louisa Spaventa guides you through this semester-long queer quest. Register now! Class will likely fill. Class begins Jan. 19; registration ends Jan. 13. ACC Rio Grande campus, 1212 Rio Grande. firstname.lastname@example.org, www.austincc.edu/honors.
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